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[curgoth]

Historically, I've always been pretty socially awkward. I have a theory that I missed out on some key part of socialization, and missed out on something that other people use to interact. With 98% of the population, I just don't really seem to be able to figure out how to communicate with them.

Fortunately for me, there's that last 2% with whom I'm able to just click with almost automatically. I've only met less than a dozen people like this in my life.

I remember years ago watching a "making of" special on the X-Files. David Duchovny was talking about his character Mulder, and relating it to a man he knew who was socially awkward, but had a fantastic wife. The man referred to his wife as his "human credential" - she was sufficiently fabulous that the people they knew figured that there must be something to him because she saw worth in him. She was proof that he was a worthwhile human being.

I tend to feel that way about my 2%. Those few people I can actually talk to vouch for me, and in time familiarity serves as a substitute for normal human behaviour.

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[tygerdsebat.livejournal.com]

I just try to surround myself with the people I'm less awkward with and avoid situations I might see the other types of people.

It's to the point where I would doubt "girly-girls" existed if I didn't see them occasionally at the mall ;)

[whynotsteve.livejournal.com]

You too, eh? I suspect there are more people who feel that way than you realize.

[notshakespeare.livejournal.com]

A while back semperfiona posted a link about geeks being book-smart and people-ignorant.

I have no doubt that it was talking about me.

[corbet.livejournal.com]

> With 98% of the population, I just don't really seem to be able to figure out how to communicate with them.

*nod* I used to feel the same, and still do some days. I'm learning to chat people up though. If it helps, I've found that if you just keep asking people questions, sooner or later you find stuff in common and have at least a mini-'click'.