Interview 11

[curgoth]

Interview meme time again. Comment if you want to be questioned.



1. Why wear do you black?

I wear the black for the poor and the beaten down,
Livin' in the hopeless, hungry side of town,
I wear it for the prisoner who has long paid for his crime,
But is there because he's a victim of the times

(Johnny Cash, "the Man in Black")

Okay, that's not really remotely true.

I wear black on the outside because black is how I feel on the inside

(Morrisey, "Unloveable")

There was a time when that was true.

These days, it's a complicated combination of identification and filtering. I'm going to be weird no matter what I do - wearing black gives people something to point at. It puts off people I don't want to talk to, and catches the eye of people I do want to talk to.

2. What single fictional technological or magical device do you lust after?

After my dream a few days ago, 7 league boots - rapid transportation that still lets me get some exercise! I did some back of envelope calculations, and 7 leagues per stride gets me about 640 kph at a steady run, which is about half the speed of sound.

3. If you could ask an all-knowing being a single question, what would it be?

How can I love without pain?

4. If you could have a favourite artist or photographer do a picture of you, who would do it and what would the setting be?

Munch, maybe? Or Van Gogh? Something swirly and stark. I don't have the right face or body shape for a Giger work. "Favourite artist" is one of those things I have a hell of a time pinning down.

5. What should I have for dinner? (assume I'll go get ingredients)

Chicken curry with a yogurt sauce, mint-coriander raita, chana masala, vegetable curry, basmati rice and some naan analog (flatbread/"pizza shells" work well)!

Comments

[hippybngstockng.livejournal.com]

I'm game for interviews ;)

And I love chicken curry!

[curgoth]

1. What should I have for dinner?
2. If you could clone one person, who and why?
3. If you could replace one person with a robot double you controlled, who and why?
4. If someone gave you a pile of money, where would you live?
5. Which is more exciting/addictive to you: tv, car or internet?

[burning-string.livejournal.com]

#3 is a damn good question. I'm not sure there is an answer.

[curgoth]

That's why I saved it for an all-knowing being!

There's got to be at least a break-even point, somehow.

[burning-string.livejournal.com]

Maybe love and pain are just meant to be together. Perhaps (hypothetically speaking ... I am only a silly 19 year old with minimal experience) love is the desire to be so close with someone that you are one and the same. I've experienced love so strong that I just wanted to merge with someone (physically and spiritually) forever and ever. But that's impossible. So love that strong is often viewed as neurotic because 1 and 1 will always equal 2. And no one can fully understand anyone else or get inside their heads. So instead we try to claim each other and become possessive so that no one else can get closer to our love than we are. But that doesn't work either because no one can truly own anyone else. I see people on the GO train and downtown who all wear wedding rings. To me it's just like saying "I am owned, I am someone's property". The thought revolts me. When I see someone on the GO train who is older and seems strong and wise, I look at their left hand and hope they aren't "owned". I like the idea that people can love without needing to posses or be possessed. I rarely see it work that way in real life, though.

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[curgoth]

Hmm. I am unfond of marriage as an institution, in part because of the possession reasoning (also for a lot of other reasons, only tangentially related to the current topic). I disagree with you on rings though - I like having visible symbols of comittment, and visible inidcators of relationship status. I just think our current symbolism is woefully underdeveloped for the complicated social patterns even "normal" people have available to them.

[burning-string.livejournal.com]

I've been having long conversations with one of my coworkers who is totally trapped in her relationship. So for her, a ring really is a cage. I'm not sure what a viable alternative is, though. Lots of people get tattoos, but that's too permanent for me.

Perhaps because I am oh-so-fond of disguises, I would be bothered by an obvious indicator that was on me 24/7. My hair is different everyday. I can go to work and take off my black nail polish and hide my scarification with opaque stockings and put on my "normal" wig and no one can tell me from a law student. But I don't want to be one person all the time. And I don't want people to know my secrets or anything about my life until I trust them. And I certainly don't trust my coworkers yet. I can't imagine what would happen if I went in there with a conspicuous engagement ring *shudder*. I should borrow one of my mom's and do it for kicks :D

But yeah. Incognito is the way to go, as far as I'm concerned. I like to think that no one can pick up on anything important just by looking at me. If I DID have some kind of visible symbol for committment, I wouldn't want anyone else to know what it meant.

[mycrazyhair.livejournal.com]

These days, it's a complicated combination of identification and filtering. I'm going to be weird no matter what I do - wearing black gives people something to point at. It puts off people I don't want to talk to, and catches the eye of people I do want to talk to.

*smile*

I, on the other hand, feel as if I'm in permanent camouflage. People I'd be interested in talking to see me and just see my suit. Too bad I'm, y'know, a financial services lawyer.

[curgoth]

There are, I suspect, ways to subvert the spirit of the rules while sticking to the letter of them, even in your job. The question is, how far can the envelope be pushed? There's got to be some way to be "the weird one" while still being professional - if that's what you want.

[javenallese.livejournal.com]

For better or worse:

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(it's the bottle of wine talking)

[curgoth]

1. How did you come upon Amber?
2. If could were given a bottomless budget to design a house with Djinn and have it built, what would it be like?
3. What's your favourite holiday?
4. If you could learn to speak with animals, which animal would you want to talk to?
5. If you could have anything for dinner tonight, made perfectly, what would it be?

[javenallese.livejournal.com]

Done.

Well, sort of done. Please see my LJ.