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It has been a weekend with many good things in it, but not, on the whole, a good weekend. Primarily because timing has been pretty crappy throughout, and things never quite went how I would have liked them to, though no fault of the various people I was privileged enough to spend time with.

The good things;

A lovely evening with the fantastic not_matt

A lovely evening with another fantastic person.

Seeing Fearless, which I quite enjoyed.

Seeing Anchorman, which I did not expect to enjoy, but did.

Tomorrow night is Ladytron at the Guvernment. Bleep Bloop!

Also, Happy Birthdays to

hippybngstockng and

princesspoopy! Also to

themusesbitch in one hour! I have been really bad about my birthday posting.

Current Music: Ayria - Pink Dress

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In relationships, power flows to the point of least desire. That is to say, ultimately, the only real power in a relationship is the power to walk away - if one is not willing to do that, one is at the mercy of whoever in the relationship *is* willing to walk away. All other power in a relationship is ultimately given - the only power one truly *owns* in a relationship is the power to walk away. Everything else is something your partner gives you, or something given to your partner.

NB: This is not triggered by issues in any of my relationships. Mostly, this comes from a) having just finished a book on power politics, and b) being madly caffinated at 4:23 am. I am willing to discuss why I am wrong, in this thought.

Editted to add - the only power someone has over you, then, besides the power to leave, is the power you *give* them. This exchange is made explicit in D/s relationships, but I think it applies to *all* relationships.

Current Mood: awake
Current Music: Fross - Convergence 6